Sidewalk Prophets cover Michael Jacksons Man in The Mirror.
As I look at some of our readers, myself included, and I see many people who have gone through life-shifting moments and are in process of change. We all want to change something about our lives, something about ourselves, something about the direction we are going in. There is no better catalyst for personal change than being a parent. We change because we want something better for our children, and it might be that you are fighting against the tide, but be determined to create that change for them.
So how do we change, how does that work? Well truth be told, change is not all too easy. But if you are going through something, and Lord knows we are all “Going through something,” than here are a few things to keep in mind while you strive to be the change you wish to see:
1. Identify what you are trying to accomplish, and ask yourself, what is holding you back? What step will you need to take to get to where you want to be?
2. Realize that change is usually a long process. Think of water erosion, on drip at a time. It would be nice if we could change our situations overnight, but that is not often realistic. So once you identify what you wish to change, take a step.
3. Mountains. There will be setbacks, speed bumps, and in some situations people who will stand in your way. Once you identify what exactly the problem is, find the answer. Want to get out of debt? Make a plan, even if it’s paying it down $5 dollars at a time, take a step.. “Drip”
4. Follow through and be consistent. I struggle with all these issues, I am sure just like you. But figuring out what you want is important. Every good story is about someone who wants something and goes through hell to get it.
5. Mark your progress. Even if it is a small success, remind yourself it’s a small success. And as you go about making these changes remember “baby steps, baby steps.
6. Lastly. Keep your eye’s open. Often along the way there are little things that fall into place, they might not be what we wanted in the moment, however, if we keep an open attitude we might find that it’s what we need.
“BE the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi
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It’s the beginning of a new chapter in your life and everything just has to be perfect. I get it. The nerves from new parents realizing how important this really is, are at maximum capacity. Raising the child they always dreamed of.. Is not easy. If it was easy, this entire universe would be nothing but happiness with the sun shining and pots of gold at the end of each rainbow you see. But, unfortunately, that isn’t always the case.
Here’s a helpful list of Do’s and Don’ts for new parents:
1. DO take care of your personal hygiene. We get so ahead of ourselves raising our new born, that we forget how to manage our own health and well-being. Brush your teeth every once in a while. Shower in the sink if you have to.
2. DON’T raise your voice out of frustration. Emotions can be running high and you were having the crappiest day known to mankind. It doesn’t give you an excuse to shout at anyone. Happens to the best of us. Meditate upon the wee hours of waking up for a few minutes. Practice the art of relaxation.
3. DO photograph as many moments as you can. Be it from your iPhone, DSLR, or disposable camera. Pictures can mean a thousand words and if not, more. Reminiscing with your child as they get older, you wouldn’t believe the adoring reactions of seeing their own baby pictures for the first time.
4. DON’T neglect the safety of your toddler. Beware of any smaller toys or items that may cause choking. That Hot Wheels race car might look harmless to you but is considered a hazard to young babies. Read the boxes of toys before purchasing. Many will give you the appropriate age the toys are geared towards.
5. DO be careful when holding your child. Support will be needed for their head and neck, as they are still very weak and not able to hold their own weight. The same rules apply for when you carry or pick them up.
Do you have any of your own helpful Do’s and Don’ts for new parents?
Post them in the comments below!