Sidewalk Prophets cover Michael Jacksons Man in The Mirror.
As I look at some of our readers, myself included, and I see many people who have gone through life-shifting moments and are in process of change. We all want to change something about our lives, something about ourselves, something about the direction we are going in. There is no better catalyst for personal change than being a parent. We change because we want something better for our children, and it might be that you are fighting against the tide, but be determined to create that change for them.
So how do we change, how does that work? Well truth be told, change is not all too easy. But if you are going through something, and Lord knows we are all “Going through something,” than here are a few things to keep in mind while you strive to be the change you wish to see:
1. Identify what you are trying to accomplish, and ask yourself, what is holding you back? What step will you need to take to get to where you want to be?
2. Realize that change is usually a long process. Think of water erosion, on drip at a time. It would be nice if we could change our situations overnight, but that is not often realistic. So once you identify what you wish to change, take a step.
3. Mountains. There will be setbacks, speed bumps, and in some situations people who will stand in your way. Once you identify what exactly the problem is, find the answer. Want to get out of debt? Make a plan, even if it’s paying it down $5 dollars at a time, take a step.. “Drip”
4. Follow through and be consistent. I struggle with all these issues, I am sure just like you. But figuring out what you want is important. Every good story is about someone who wants something and goes through hell to get it.
5. Mark your progress. Even if it is a small success, remind yourself it’s a small success. And as you go about making these changes remember “baby steps, baby steps.
6. Lastly. Keep your eye’s open. Often along the way there are little things that fall into place, they might not be what we wanted in the moment, however, if we keep an open attitude we might find that it’s what we need.
“BE the change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi
Being a parent can be trying, being a parent in difficult times, even more-so, being a single parent in trying times… Well that is something all together different. If you are struggling, as we all do some times, in parenting, in difficulty, in life, remember that this too shall pass and don’t forget:
It is true that adversity is the best teacher. Without experiencing adversity we fail to grow, we fail to learn. And while I am hesitant to say I welcome adversity, I am however able to appreciate it, in a place where I used to dread its instructions. It has, truth be told, become an old friend who’s weathered time with me, and has been my instructor.
Where I uses to rebuke it’s comings, I now welcome it, if I cannot shake it away. I embrace it like a brother and hold it dear, knowing it’s rewards will soon, far outweigh its sorrows. For without adversity we are but beggars for wisdom, in an otherwise un-lovable world of poppers and vagabonds: well-travelled, but none the wiser.
hold to its keeping, forsake not it’s instructions. Sit at its feet and let it teach you, for with adversity, soon comes wisdom. Soon too, comes joy.